"And he fell on his brother Binyamin's neck, and he wept, and Binyamin wept on his neck." (Genesis 45:14)



"And he [Joseph] wept - over the two Temples which would be built on Binyamin's portion, and would be destroyed, and Binyamin wept over the Mishkan of Shilo which would be built on Yosef's land and would ultimately be destroyed." (Rashi, on ibid.)



Why are the brothers crying now, at the time of their great joy, over the future destruction? And why is each one crying over the misfortune of the other and not over his own?



We know that the Temples were destroyed because of baseless hatred (Yoma 9:2). Now, when Binyamin and Yosef were reunited, they realized that the separation they had suffered was caused by baseless hatred, and they immediately foresaw the future destruction, another result of baseless hatred. That is why they cried. That same baseless hatred that had caused them so much suffering would also be the source of future calamities.



The cure for baseless hatred is to promote the growth of mutual love until a person's friend's pain hurts him more than his own does. Therefore, each brother wept over the other's misfortune, teaching us that what was most important to each one was what happened to the other. This was despite the fact that the Temple of Binyamin could not have been built until the Mishkan of Yosef had been destroyed. Nevertheless, Binyamin would have preferred that his Mikdash not even be built if it entailed the destruction of his brother's.



Love is the cure for baseless hatred.