Rabbi Dentalsky
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Rabbi Zvika Dentalsky, chairman of the Hosen nonprofit for helping individuals with unwanted homosexual leanings, explains the meaning of the conversion therapies that are causing and have caused an uproar around the very existence of the conference, and what the treatment advocated by him and therapists like him actually is.

Conversion therapies, says Rabbi Dentalsky, were indeed in the last century in various mental therapies and behavioral therapies whose purpose is to lead the person to a certain goal without regard to the dignity of the patient. Among these were difficult behavioral treatments, drugs, chemical castration, electric shock and other abusive treatments that do not include listening to the patient's soul and aspirations, or which had offensive and violent techniques that no longer exist.

Compared to these methods, "We offer a meeting between the therapist and the patient as is customary in any other field, where the patient is the one who dictates the pace of the treatment, the subject of the treatment and the goal of the treatment. The therapist does not set as a goal to make the patient straight, and is not willing do everything in the name of this ambition. Here the patient comes with a desire of his own, the therapist listens to his wishes and goes with him step by step, and if at any stage of the treatment the patient wants to stop, the therapist has no objections."

Regarding the opposition to this type of treatment, Rabbi Dentalsky says that in order to prevent even thinking in this direction of treatment, boycotts and denunciations are rained down, as was the case with the entire conference, and anyone who seeks to help patients is defined as a traitor. This is while "the same people are very much in favor of transgender surgeries, which is not treatment by talking to a psychologist, but taking puberty blockers, excessive drugs, cutting organs, breast augmentation or hair extensions, terrible things that have far-reaching consequences and they are carried out at a very young age, before the boys truly understand them. Now the chief social worker of the Ministry of Welfare wants to expropriate children from their parents if they refuse to allow surgery for children at the age of 14, which is ridiculous."

"We," says Rabbi Dentalsky, "are only talking about talking, from person to person, up to the age of 18 with the approval of the parents and over the age of 18 with the approval of the person himself, and without any coercion, substances or chemical castration. The LGBT organizations are afraid that people will hear that this is normal treatment for everything and be interested."

In his words, Rabbi Dentalsky clarifies that there is no attempt to claim that a certain sexual attraction is a disease. Rather, it is a matter of responding to a patient's desire to find out his sexual orientation and any conclusion can come from such an inquiry. In his words, he does not deny that as an observant person, the desire is for the blessing to come in a relationship between a man and a woman, but if this does not help, "then no," as he put it.

In his words, Rabbi Dentalsky rejects the claim that sexual identity cannot be changed. He tells about hundreds that he knows whose identity was changed in order to establish a family of a father and a mother, although there are few studies on this since many researchers prefer not to deal with the issue in order not to become embroiled in a debate.

"Psychologists know that sexual orientation is a flexible thing. There is a lot of research evidence for this, but it does not fit in their agenda. Whoever feels they have a problem and wants to come to our organization and therapists is welcome. Whoever is not bothered by this, let him continue his life. I have never approached anyone to see us. If you are not comfortable with your inclination, please, there is something to be done about it, but if not, go on living your life."