Ask anyone why we mourn during The Nine Days and they will tell you it’s because the Bet Hamikdash was destroyed. While it’s true that this tragic event happened during these days… according to hassidic teachings, that is not why we mourn.
The hassidic masters all say that we mourn because of the present, not the past. Yes, the destruction of the 2 Batei Mikdash was terrible but who can cry for 2,000+ years? They explain that the sadness, grief, and mourning are for the fact that we do not have the Bet Hamkdash today! No sweet singing of the Levi’im, no incredible smell of the Ketoret (incense), no Korban Pesach, no unbelievable Simchat Bet Hashoevah on Sukkot and most of all; no seeing the shining face of the Kohen Gadol as he emerged unscathed from the Kodesh Hakadashim on Yom Kippur! How we long for those days…
I must admit, there’s something else I long for as much as seeing the 3rd Bet Hamikdash. I miss my family… I miss YOU!!! – the people reading this article… my brothers and sisters who, at the present time, still live outside the Promised Land. During these days I cry tears of hope that you will stand next to me in Jerusalem.
Allow me to talk straight, without the sugar coating, because I love my people and want to do whatever I can to help. What the heck are you still doing there? Let’s be honest; For 70% of you, there are no more excuses. You can sell your house for a nice price and use that to buy a home in Israel. The options for education are fantastic – with a wide variety of choices. Israel’s medical system is advanced and private insurance can be added to the basic coverage (which is provided for free) and many of you can even keep your jobs, thanks to the internet and our friend, Zoom!
But there’s more…
None of what I just wrote compares to the #1 reason of all; Coming home to Eretz Yisrael will permanently fix the big, gaping hole in your soul… the one that longs for Eretz Yisrael. (Yes, it’s there!) “By the rivers of Babylon (Bavel), there we sat, we wept exceedingly when we remembered Zion (Israel)” (Tehillim 137:1) This prophetic chapter by King David begins with a verse that highlights the exile and destruction of Jewish life in Israel after the first Temple’s destruction, while the second part of the psalm applies to when the second Temple was destroyed by the Romans and the Bar Kochba rebellion sixty years later saw hundreds of thousands – and possibly even millions – brutally murdered.
The Jews were exiled with iron chains and heavy burdens on their backs and were completely humiliated. Starvation was rampant and parents were forced to do the unthinkable to their own children. The evil Emperor Hadrian owned a large vineyard in Israel and built a fence around it with Jewish corpses piled on top of each other after the fall of Beitar in that rebellion, yet… with all this death, destruction, bloodshed and shame the verse in Tehillim says that we cried exactly as we cried by the rivers of Babylon because “we remembered Zion”. Really? That is what we were crying about? We missed life in Israel? We didn’t cry because of the massive killings or the Jewish blood in each desruction that, Eicha Rabbah (2:4) said, caused horses to drown!? Can you imagine how much innocent blood that was… yet our mothers and fathers sat by the river and cried when they simply “remembered Zion”?
Yes, it’s correct, and I’ll tell you why. Years ago, Jews were able to focus on what was more important than anything else. Life in Eretz Yisrael was more precious than life itself! Struggling, fighting, defending, and even dying inside was preferred over peace and tranquility outside. The worst thing that happened to us since being exiled is that we got used to living outside the borders of Eretz Yisrael. Today, some of us actually prefer living 6,000 miles away from Jerusalem, giving all kinds of reasons and justifications.
Do you know what I call that? It’s called; Tisha B’Av! That is the reason we sit, mourn and cry during these days because most of us have the ability to come home and build our lives in the land given by Hashem but choose otherwise.
What happened to weeping when we simply remember Zion? Is it gone forever? Is it something we recite in Tehillim chapter 137… but that’s it? I urge you to ask yourselves these questions this year. Don’t just ask when the fast ends… ask when the exile ends. Find the ocean of tears that are hidden in your neshama for missing out on life in Eretz Yisrael and finally, before planning your big “Shabbat Nachamu” getaway make sure you plan to really get-away… back to Zion and Jerusalem… or Ramat Bet Shemesh, Efrat or Ra’anana!
“By the rivers of Babylon, we wept exceedingly when we remembered Zion”. That’s not just a pasuk in Tehillim… it’s a way of life. Its our compass for finding our way back home and for making this the last Tisha B’Av in which we cry and mourn. May we find those feelings - which have been hiding for many years - and make them the guiding force in our decisions and life as a Torah Jew.