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How is it that despite the fact that the Aishes Chayil,woman of the home  has been told and understands cognitively about the laws of Passover, she continues to follow what she “knows-feels ” to be correct.  A common

But…”we always did it that way.”

answer begins with the words,” I know, BUT…”

 

Some of the  responses heard include “I know. Passover cleaning is not spring cleaning , but…

I know dirt is not chametz and dust is not chametz, but…

I only want to get rid of the chametz, but… I need the house to look nice for Pesach.

But…”we always did it that way.”

 

The classic story is told of the woman who asks her Rav a question about checking all the books in her home. The Rav answers “Check only the ones you have used this year.”  Whereupon she thinks, ”but… the Rav does not know the halacha” and decides that she will not be asking him any more halachic questions.

 

In my opinion  “BUT” relates to the deepest desires and feelings, which transcend any cognition. (Cognitive exercises will not work in this instance J.)

The woman of the Jewish home feels responsible for everything that transpires there. This sense of responsibility becomes especially relevant around Passover,

because of all the holidays Passover is the holiday of the family. The korban Pesach was eaten within the family.

The Torah tells us “a lamb for the house of our fathers “but emphasizes “a lamb for the home.”(Exodus 12:3)

 

However the explanation goes deeper than that. Our rabbis associate chametz, leavened bread, with sin .Therefore if there is any chametz in the home (even if it is halachically allowed to remain there) it is as if the home has not been cleansed of any wrongdoing. How then can we celebrate our freedom from Mitzrayim, and as the Nesivos Shalom states, how do we free ourselves from our own and our familys’ ”Matzar “ or distress, so  that we can celebrate our freedom and lead us to getting the Torah at Har Sinai?

 

This responsibility or burden is taken on by the woman of the home. Therefore, in the deepest recesses of the mind, the deepest feelings of the Aishes Chayil of the home,    believes that all this depends on her and” I better make sure it is done the right way, the way “I know and feel.”

 

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