As appearing on the AskMoses.com website.


seeking_equality: Are men considered the head of the family in judaism? this is an ongoing discussion i have

When a husband and wife are one entity, there is no hierarchy, no inequality, no friction.

been having with my mate


Rabbi Shlomo Chein: A husband and wife are a single entity according to the Torah


seeking_equality: they are one?


Rabbi Shlomo Chein: in a single entity everything has its value and why it is necessary; so in your body -- what is more important, your ears or your mouth?


seeking_equality: they both are important


Rabbi Shlomo Chein: bingo! but one speaks and one hears; they can't both speak, and they can't both listen. But a person is not healthy if he is missing either one -- because they are both important!


seeking_equality: but in a body the head is more important than a limb


Rabbi Shlomo Chein: A husband and wife each have their own roles -- their roles are not the same -- but they are both important, and if you have one without the other, neither of them are complete


When a husband and wife are one entity, there is no hierarchy, no inequality, no friction; only harmonious sharing of roles, abilities and talents, to create a single healthy being


seeking_equality: all the limbs are important, but without the head everything is dead


Rabbi Shlomo Chein: have you ever seen a head without other limbs?


seeking_equality: so is the man considered head of family or both husband and wife are head?


Rabbi Shlomo Chein: a man is the head, a woman is the heart


seeking_equality: but my girl said that once there is a head there is hierarchy and inequality; I try to explain to her that it is just different roles


Rabbi Shlomo Chein: because she thinks it is two different people or entities. is there hierarchy from the head over the heart in a human body, or do they work in harmony?


seeking_equality: they work in harmony


Rabbi Shlomo Chein: when a husband and wife are one entity, there is no hierarchy, no inequality, no friction;

Her points were very strong and suggested that I believed in inequality and patriarchy.

only harmonious sharing of roles, abilities and talents, to create a single healthy being


seeking_equality: so why is not the woman the head and man, heart?


Rabbi Shlomo Chein: why is not your heart your head and your head, your heart?


seeking_equality: what is the role of the man that makes him head?


Rabbi Shlomo Chein: do a search on askmoses.com for "role of women"


seeking_equality: I want to know 'cause her points were very strong and suggested that I believed in inequality and patriarchy


Rabbi Shlomo Chein: do you?


seeking_equality: no, I just believe that man is the head and we are both one, just different in glory. we are equal, just different roles. I think i can discuss it better with my princess now


Rabbi Shlomo Chein: great!


seeking_equality: thank you. shalom


Rabbi Shlomo Chein: shalom