Bereaved father Yossi Tzur, whose son Assaf was killed 20 years ago in a terrorist attack in Haifa, tells Israel National News as we head into Yom Hazikaron (Memorial Day) this week about a book he co-wrote with bereaved mother Iris Segev on the topic of left versus right and the world of bereavement and grief.

“We decided to write a book that tells our personal story of bereavement, of how it is in the last 20 years as parents, and also to talk about our ideological differences, which are quite significant,” Tzur says.

“Iris Segev, mother of Nimrod who was a soldier, she is on the left side of the scale. I’m on the right side of the scale. We have arguments, we have talks about it, but the main message that we want to convey in that book is that we still stayed friends. We are for unity. We are not for any separation and we want to convey that message to the Israelis, especially in these days where we see what's happening in the streets.”

Both of them write that they respect that the other one is acting for the security of Israel from their standpoint and also from their experience of grief.

“I think that we have the same vision and the vision is the State of Israel that we want to see for our children and grandchildren,” he says. “We differ on the way to achieve that and we have talks about it, we have arguments about it. But we respect each other and we do not allow those arguments to separate us or to break the friendship.”

Their ideology and activism has been strengthened because of the tragedies they experienced.

“Usually when when you experience such violent acts, like the second Lebanon war for Iris and the terror attack for me, you feel that you need to fight it, and you need to prevent the next person from getting killed,” he explains. "This is something that drives you into doing things. You cannot stay at home and and do nothing like before. You have to go out, you have to speak your mind and you have to do whatever you can in order to to fight it.”

Regarding the possibility of protests at the memorial events and the call for politicians to stay away so as not to inflame tensions, Tzur says his message is that the country should take a time out for Memorial Day from all ideological arguments.

“Remember that this day is all about one thing: the dead soldiers and the murdered citizens, those that we want to remember on Memorial. I think that every person that comes into the cemetery with the intention to demonstrate and to shout and to do whatever protest against the politicians is thinking about himself and not about the dead who are lying below the stones. Everyone should take a deep breath and think about it and take the time out. Let’s let this day pass in peace.”