Daily Israel Report

A New Life

How do you do what's right when the odds are stacked against you?
By Efrat
First Publish: 3/26/2014, 9:15 PM

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This article is the third of a six-part series of testimonies from women saved by Efrat (the Committee for the Rescue of Israel's Babies) from undergoing unnecessary abortions. For Part Two see here.

"I’m a very young mother. It’s been only two months since I gave birth, but I feel I have to share my story. 

"Oded and I had been together since we were both 18. We knew we were going to get married one day, but it seemed that time went by without us paying much attention and I there I was, 27 years old and still unmarried. When I found out I was pregnant, I thought a wedding would be imminent, but I was wrong.

"Initially Oded wasn’t opposed and the pressure came from his parents. After they found out about the pregnancy I was subjected to such mental abuse and humiliation, it’s even hard for me to describe it in words.

"Oded was more afraid of losing his parents than he was of losing me. He told me that when I’d made the right decision I should call him. When I asked him 'What is the right decision?' he refused to answer and I understood.

"His well-educated and respectable parents had exerted every possible pressure on him to influence me to abort. After they realized that it wasn’t going to be so easy to convince me, they enlisted a psychiatrist friend of theirs, to call me and try to scare me by telling me that Oded’s family has a history of mental illness that the baby might inherit. They also scheduled a meeting with my parents to discuss the matter of the abortion and promised to fund it at a private clinic with an excellent doctor they know personally.

"I found myself alone on the battlefield; here I was about to lose the guy who for the last ten years had been my whole world, and my parents were also angry and couldn’t understand why I was so stubborn.

"A work colleague told me about Efrat and I decided to contact them using a pseudonym. I told myself that if they returned my call, at least someone out there would be on my side.

"When the phone rang I snatched it up, hoping that it was Efrat but unfortunately it was Oded’s mother who told me she had scheduled me an appointment for the next day and she would be coming to pick me up in the morning.

"She he was not in the least interested about what I had been going through. She was determined to make sure I was not trying to get out of it, as if she was 'dead checking' me.

"I was in shock. I cried nonstop, until the phone rang again.

"This time it was a volunteer from Efrat. She talked to me for almost three hours. I poured out my heart to her. I told her that I didn’t want to have an abortion but that I was afraid of losing Oded and my family, so she calmed me down me and told me she would personally look after me throughout the entire pregnancy, and after the birth I would receive everything I need for the baby.

"I felt I had absorbed immense strength from her. Going against the will of everyone else, I decided I would let the pregnancy be.

"Today I have a two month old baby and I'm happy. It’s amazing how after the birth, everyone suddenly forgot about the war they had waged around and against me.

"I'm happy to declare aloud to the world that if not for Efrat, I would have buckled under the pressure and probably would have had an abortion, but I would never have forgiven myself or them. The fact that the whole family reunited through my baby is also thanks to Efrat."